Written By: Christopher Kimberley
DEFINING EMOTIONAL MATURITY
The process of emotional maturity entails becoming aware of the “significance of feelings”. In order to become aware one must have enough inner emotional condition to take growth-producing steps throughout life. The end process of emotional maturity means that an individual has developed a certain understanding of their whole self and a dependable individuality. Attaining this level of maturity means an individual has attained self-awareness and a morally responsible attitude towards others. By being called emotional mature does not refer to physical enhancement but rather psychological development. (Hepner, 1979; Heath, 1965 pp 4; Horton, 2004 pp 57; Myklebust, 1994 pp 19).
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL MATURITY
When becoming emotional maturity one must not ignore their emotions and act like they have no feelings. It does however mean that one must be able to recognize their emotional development and the process that it entails in becoming aware of the significance of feelings. One must be able to control their emotions in order to enjoy their life as this is a fundamental issue of becoming emotionally mature. In order to benefit from emotional maturity one must have the ability to quickly put their feelings into perspective by evaluating the consequences of their actions before reacting to a situation. Their actions are determined by the integration of various aspects of personality into the self. Through these actions one is able attain emotional maturity although everyone matures in their own unique way (James, 2010; Landau, 1998; Myklebust, 1994).
An individual might lack the ability of maturity but still have a high abstract intelligence. That individual may be clever in the study of certain books, but may never of had the chance to study the type of books or have had the experiences in life that are necessary in order to make that individual a well-adjusted and mature adult. The emotional aspect though must not been seen as an opposite of the intellectual but rather as a complementary element to one’s personality (Hepner, 1979; Landua, 1998).